Ciara’s engagement brings out the misogyny in menMarch 14, 2016
We see them day to day being announced on our timelines.
“She said yes!”
“Check out my rock!”
In the comments section we see a series of “Congratulations,” “I’m so happy for you’s” and “You deserve it’s!”
It is truly an exciting time in a woman’s life and in a man’s to decide to spend the rest of their lives with each other.
However, this past Friday when R &B Singer Ciara and Seattle Seahawks Starting Quarterback Russell Wilson happily announced their engagement on Wilson’s Instagram, there were a lot of mixed responses that, I must say, PISSED ME THE HELL OFF!!!!!!!
Men in particular had a lot of negative and rude things to say about Ciara regarding her dating past. Yes she’s dated Bow Wow, 50 Cent, and had a baby with Future but so WHAT???? You show me one grown woman that has not kissed a lot of frogs before she met her Prince and I will show you a 50 year old male virgin!!!! It’s damn near impossible!!!!
Because her life is public, it puts her in the limelight for public scrutiny. However, an engagement should not be one of those times. Ciara is showing women everywhere that just because you’ve had a few failed relationships, have had your heart broken, and possibly had a baby does not mean you are damaged goods and don’t deserve love.
However, the internet, once again has allowed folks to rear their ugly, evil heads. I was appalled at some of the comments that were under different threads on the internet. I took a couple of screen shots on my phone just to show the type of nasty behavior that men were displaying in relation to their announcement:
Do you see this????? They are so quick to holler “I’m not hating” but I wouldn’t know any other word to describe how they sound. And to make things even worst, when I accused them of sounding like misogynists, one guy said and I quote “I’m lost. Women think calling men a misogynist is a bad thing.” This was laughable to me because for one, yes he is lost if he doesn’t know that misogyny is a terrible thing! It’s basically a person who HATES women or is strongly prejudiced against women. Now what about that isn’t a bad thing? With idiots like this running around, I see why there are so many single sisters. But I stand here today to say that I know for a fact that with patience and more importantly proper judgement, ladies can and will find true love. And for these men to say to women that we aren’t worthy of love because of our past judgements is absolutely hateful and misogynistic. Ladies please steer clear of this type of man!!!!
Furthermore, who hasn’t dated a few people before they finally settled down? Aren’t men known to sow their wild oats when they are young men? So why don’t these same rules apply to women? It’s an ugly double standard that makes women be called derogatory names, while men are celebrated for the exact same thing.
I honestly think these men would be happier if Ciara had only remained the baby mama of a man who could really care less about her and never moved on. They feel that because of her past, she doesn’t deserve true love. Well if that were the case, none of us would be worthy. Ciara did not live up to the stereotypical angry baby mama and now you mad!!!! #crymeariver. She left a man who was supposed to be her “Future,” but when he messed up she found someone who wanted to respect, love and treat her and her son the right way.
CONGRATULATIONS RUSSELL AND CIARA!!!! YOU DESERVE THE VERY BEST LIFE HAS TO OFFER!