On the heels of the season 2 premiere of my FAVE reality show Love and Hip Hop: Atlanta, I felt it very appropriate to introduce one of my most interesting characters, Miss Deena. Like Joceline Hernandez and Shay “Buckeye” Johnson of LHHATL, Deena is the shameful “Side Chick.”

As you read in the cast intro blog, Meet My Cast of Characters, Deena is having an interoffice love affair with Greg. Now although Greg is practically ten years younger than she is, the guy is apparently smoother than most men her age or older. He’s very well established in his career as one of the top real estate agents in the firm that they both work for. He’s making the kind of money that most men twenty years older aren’t even making. Any person that he comes into contact with he can literally charm their socks (or panties) off. On top of all that, he’s very handsome. Think Apollo Nida (Real Housewives of Atlanta) meets Houston Texans Arian Foster. Sounds irresistible right?

Well believe it or not, Deena was not all that into him when she first met him. Number one he was young as hell, practically fresh out of college. Number 2, she had reached a point in her life where she was over “the charmer.” She’d dated and had her heart broken enough by those guys.

And last but not least, He had a girlfriend.

Practically a wife.

No he wasn’t engaged, but he might as well be. He and his girlfriend had been together for about four years when he and Deena met. They also live together in a quite pricey condo in the suburbs. Nevertheless, Deena was never into guys who cheated on their significant others. In fact, it was a turn-off to her when men who were in relationships came on to her.

Deena has never had a problem meeting men. She’s highly successful, ambitious, and Gorg. She’s just always chosen the wrong guys to give her heart and time to.

And apparently things haven’t changed too much, because for the first time in her life, Deena has really lowered her standards by allowing herself to become some man’s “side chick.”

It all started with a few innocent texts from Greg. This surprised Deena because her along with all of her co-workers thought that Greg was this “Perfect Young Man” who was in this “Perfect Relationship” with the “Perfect Girl.” So when he started flirting with her, I think she oddly became intrigued by it because it came as such a surprise. The texts then turned into some visits to her house. The way he held her while they watched tv was an instant turn on. For the first time in a while, she’d felt safe with someone. Greg was someone she’d actually gotten to know at work before things took off for them.

It wasn’t long before they were having sex on a regular basis. She admits that it is by far one of the best sexual encounters she’s had IN HER LIFE!!! Now what was supposed to be the secret sexual affair between the two seemed to eventually turn into more. He began taking her out in public on dates to the movies, restaurants, theme parks, etc. And unlike many side chick situations, they even exchanged gifts on important holidays like Christmas and Birthdays. It’s like this guy has two relationships going on. Two Girlfriends. This love triangle is not so different of the one on LHHATL between Joceline, Mimi and the infamous Stevie J.

The guy is good.

Here he is with a girlfriend and he’s taking his mistress out in public where they could be caught by anybody. Now needless to say, they haven’t been caught yet and none of their co-workers have a clue. Not even after a year of them doing their thing.

Lately, Deena’s mom has been extremely concerned with the status of Deena and her relationship with Greg. She refers to Deena as Greg’s “Dirty Little Secret.”

“You are so much better that that Deena,” her mom is always preaching to her.

“Are you ok with being this man’s secret? Are you ok with the fact that he has no intentions of being with you, EVER?”

Deena insists to me and her mom that this relationship is just what she needs to prevent from getting hurt again. She doesn’t have to expect anything from Greg. In the past when she has dated a guy that she began to fall for, she often wondered what the next step was or how he felt about her. A lot of times the relationships did not work out in her favor.

In her mind, Greg cannot hurt her. She already knows what she is dealing with and doesn’t have to worry about getting hurt. She doesn’t have to expect a relationship. She’s just having fun.

But she knows its wrong.

She is currently dating two other guys, Alan and David. She is really starting to like David but this barrier on her heart from past heartbreaks won’t let her feel too much for him either.He’s a phenomenal guy though and is really into Deena. Alan is pretty much a time filler but she’s not too sure about the future of their relationship either.

Long story short, Deena has trust issues.

Nevertheless, she’s tried to end her affair with Greg, but they can’t seem to let each other go. After all, they see each other all the time at work.

Deena’s mom and her best friend are concerned for her and insist that that she relocate to another firm and end her relationship with Greg and move on. They fear that Greg is blocking her “blessings.” They find it hard to believe that Deena will ever be able to move on with another man as long as Greg is in the picture.

Deena insists that when she is ready she will be able to walk away from this relationship. She never really expected the relationship to last as long as it has. It’s gotten kind of out of control. And although Deena feels that she knows what she is dealing with, she really doesn’t. Who’s to say he’s not lying to her about certain things the same way he lies to his wifey? Who’s to say that when he’s done “playing” with Deena, and marry his girlfriend, he won’t just drop her like she never meant anything to him? Who’s to say she won’t care if he does?

This is a tough one. In my opinion, I think Deena should just build the strength to walk away from this relationship with dignity before she loses complete control all together and before Greg is ready to end it.

Sure now, he tells her “he isn’t going anywhere,” but if wifey finds out, I’m sure that will change.

Who really has the biggest struggle here? Is it Deena, the side chick who knows she is dealing with a “bad boy,?” Or is it the main chick, the one who believes she has a “good honest guy” who is/has been loyal to her all of these years?

We’ll see how this develops…..

This week’s video is dedicated to Miss Deena and the charmer Greg. I think its very fitting of their situation….