(submitted via Facebook)

“Ok so a gentleman tries to spit a lil game at the bank. His approach was not very appealing as he was making references to my posterior and saying how aroused he was getting just by looking. I wasn’t interested. “No thank u, I’m really not interested but it was nice meeting u.”

No biggie.

Come to work today and get a call directly to my office! Its HIM. He says “You get my flowers? I had my assistant send u some?”

HUH?!!

And POOF, flowers at my job.

I’m creeped out at this point. He apparently saw my work badge, found my school’s number and got transferred to me. I thank him and say AGAIN, “You know I don’t think that was necessary. I’m really not interested. but thanks a bunch. That was very nice of you.

End of convo.

While I think that the gesture was nice, I realize we live in a double standard world where many men will think that was mean, stuck up, unappreciative, etc to be weirded out, so I offer this..Gifts & thoughtful gestures are BEAUTIFUL!! But I do think they should be warranted. If good convo was had, chemistry felt, numbers exchanged even, then yes… Super sweet! BUT, after the respectful ‘no thank you’ I think that finding me was a bit much… I have guy friends right now who are making me feel like I should get with EVERY guy that says hey. I don’t think thats fair to say you’re wrong for not being interested in EVERYBODY.”

So guys and gals what do you think? Did she handle the situations appropriately or was she being too hard on the guy who seemed very interested in her? Should she have given him another chance? Is the old saying “You never get a second chance to make a first impression” still true?

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