Dear Mr. Dating Struggle,

I need a guy’s opinion. I’ve been seeing a guy since April. We saw each other every day or every other day, I meet his friends and we went on a few dates as well as slept with each other. So naturally the subject of our future would come up and he would tell me that he’s not ready for a relationship because his last one ended badly and he still thinks about it. Well…these last two weeks he’s asked for distance because we were seeing each other too much and that was causing us to catch feelings and have expectations of each other. He says he has feelings for me and he likes me, so I’m extremely hurt that he wants distance now because I care about him a lot. Do you think I should have been more patient and he would have come around? Or is this the best thing for us. What should I do? I feel like his decision is my fault.

Dear Miss Heartbroken,

This is the case of him proving you wrong and you getting hurt in the process. See you started off on the right track at first stating your expectations upfront. You had the control of the situation at that point.

He told you that he did not want to meet your expectations and at that moment you should have ended all contact. But he did what men have the ability to do and know, play off of your vulnerability.

A man has the ability to sense vulnerability.

That’s exactly what happened in this situation. As a result of that, he got what he wanted which was your most prized possession: Your body. Once you gave him that, you lost control of the situation at that point. Now ask yourself this, what value does he add to your life? Your time is your most valuable asset in life, never waste it. Women are the back bone of men, you are the prize.

Never fault yourself from past hurt emotional decisions made by a man.

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