Mr. Dating Struggle,

I am seeing a man who I am absolutely crazy about and he adores me as well. He’s met my family and we used to hang out often. However, I am beginning to have some concerns because he doesn’t take me out as often as he used to and the men he hangs around cheat on their significant others. I’ve always believed that birds of a feather flock together. I’ve been hurt and lied to a lot in the past and fear that I just may be acting paranoid and I don’t want to run him away with my concerns. Am I overreacting?

Dear Miss Paranoid,

Relationships never stay in the cloud nine stages, but certian things should never fizzle if it is genuine love. Use the method I talk about in my book, the “observation of evaluation.” Observations are a very key component to finding out what we truly want to know. But one thing that you truly want to ask yourself is if you are truly over your past hurt with old relationships because this could just be a trigger as well in your life with your current relationship. The kryptonite’s of our past will destroy our current every time, if we let them. Observe him in silent.

It also seems as if you have basically given up on yourself for the sake of comfort from a man. You stated that your biggest fear is that you don’t want to lose him because of your concerns, but are you going to negate your concerns for someone that has gotten what he wants from you and is stringing you along? Wake up!

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