Before I begin this blog, let me first apologize for a little “disappearing act” of my own. I have not blogged for at least five months due to lack of motivation and a serious case of writer’s block.

Now don’t get me wrong, due to my new found love life and the entertaining dating struggles of women everywhere, I have plenty of material. So I plan to stop being lazy and pick up right where I left off.

This particular blog holds near and dear to my heart because it was inspired by a young lady who is a very dear friend of mine. And yes she did in fact give me permission to share her story.

For the sake of privacy I’m going to refer to her as Felicia.

Felicia is what most men who are looking for love would call the ideal woman: Attractive, heavily involved in church, giving, thoughtful, outgoing but not a THOT, family oriented, responsible mother of a beautiful daughter…I mean pretty much ideal wifey material.

But needless to say, Felicia has had her share of horrific dating struggles. She has recently just began to step out on the dating scene and try it out again after ending a nearly 10 year relationship with a man whom everyone just knew she would marry. They seemed like such the ideal couple, but when she finally got to the point where she was ready to take the next step, she gave the man she was dating the ULTIMATE ultimatum: Marry me or Leave me.

He left.

His reason you ask?

“I’m just not ready to make that serious of a commitment yet.”

And no more than two years later, he was married to someone else. Talk about adding insult to injury.

Just recently Felicia ran into Carl, and old acquaintance of hers that she knew from a few years ago. Carl had been chasing Felicia for years but she never really showed interest.

Carl wasn’t much of Felicia’s type either….physically that is. He was a lot “heavier” than most men she’d dated and wasn’t traditionally attractive, but he did make a pretty good living for himself.

Now at 37, with more of an open mind, Felicia began seeing Carl. He treated her like a queen! I mean after all he finally got the girl he’d been chasing for so long to finally go out with him.

They went everywhere together and had a ball in each other’s presence.

Felicia was finally happy again.

And then one day, eight months into their dating bliss, Carl emotionally checked out of the relationship.

Felicia was completely blind sighted when she received a text from him out of the blue just telling her the relationship was not working out and that they are in two different places.

They hadn’t had an argument prior to this text and to Felicia everything was all good but apparently Carl was feeling completely different.

She tried everything in her power to just try and talk with him and fix whatever issues he may have had with her but emotionally he had already disappeared from her life.

But why??????? She never got a solid answer from him and it bothered her terribly.

Men: How is it that one day you can be head over heels in love with a woman and the next day treat her like she was just some drunken one night stand mistake that you never want to talk to again.

This isn’t the first time I’ve seen this happen. Hell it’s happened to me before.

It’s like men are becoming magicians: Now you see me, Now you don’t. Taaa Daaaaaaa!!!!!!! David Copperfield has nothing on some of these guys of today.

And how as women are we supposed to even know, expect, or prepare for something like that to happen?

The sad news is, we can’t. That’s the risk of dating these days. People change, emotions change, and there is really nothing you can do about it except mourn the loss for a while and then move on. I don’t call this blog The Dating Struggle for nothing. Dating is and always will be A STRUGGLE.

You have to expect the unexpected sometimes.

However, fellas, you must be careful of who you may be pulling these “disappearing acts” on too. Especially when it comes to matters of the heart. I hate to see any of you end up on an episode of “Snapped.”

Not all women handle broken hearts in a reasonably,dignified manner.

#imjustsayin