Ok first off…I’m baaaaaaaaack!

The wedding is over and I am officially a married dating blogger!!!! Oh you guys and gals didn’t think I was done blogging about the struggle just cause I got married did you? Absolutely not. If anything you should be more inclined to take my advice now that I’ve snagged me a good man 😂😂😂😂😂

Anywho, let’s just dive right into my topic for the day. Two of my favorite single lady shows are back: Being Mary Jane and Insecure.

Both of the leading  ladies are having relationship issues. For those that don’t watch either show, I’m gonna give you the super short breakdown. Both ladies cheated on their men, ok? However, Issa, who is a young woman, I’d say about 29 or 30 is regretting her actions and wants her man back. Mary Jane, who is a little older, 40 to be exact, has no regrets cheating on her good man. In fact she left him for a man that once got her fired from a previous job because he is what I like to call a career ladder whore. He will step on whoever he needs to get to the top. Nevertheless,  Justin is fine (He’s played by Michael Ealy.) She slept with “Justin” one time and was over her now ex at the snap of a finger.

Now this is why I’m more forgiving of Issa than Mary Jane: Issa is a young woman who realizes she made a mistake with a good guy. She acknowledges that she didn’t appreciate what she had and that dating and finding another compatible mate is not that easy. She learned this lesson early enough in life to where hopefully she wouldn’t make the same mistake again.

Mary Jane on the other hand is not old. However, she is too old to be making the dumb mistakes she is making in dating. Since the show began she’s been crying about men not being loyal or faithful to her. She’s been crying about getting pregnant. She whines about not being married at her age. Then when she finally meets a man willing to give her everything she wants, she dumps him for the cute guy at her job because the sex was good. Even when you think she’s about to move on from him after he tells her he’s still in a relationship, it didn’t take much for her panties to drop when he just shows up at her door as she’s preparing for a date with someone else. 

These are young girl mistakes!!!!!!!!

This is the type of dumb stuff I did in my twenties. Falling for the cute guy who I knew deep down wasn’t right for me but I just wanted it so bad that I was going to make it happen. Dumb!!!!!! At some point you would think her character would have learned from these mistakes. I mean she’s forty years old for God’s sake!!!!!!!! When is she going to learn?

I mean, I get it. Temptation is everywhere. But at some point in your life when you know you want marriage and children, you have to do what is best for you and your future, not just what feels good right now. Now I’m not saying as women we should settle, but our BS radar from men should be more on point by the age of 40. Like how many times do you have to be let down before you grow up?

I realize that these women on these shows are scripted characters, but there are women today making these same types of mistakes in real life. Always wanting the guy who we know is wrong for us, but they are sexy or the sex is good so we become blinded to what kind of relationship it really is.

Keep this in mind ladies and I’m sure you’ve heard it before: Going through life doing the same things and expecting different results makes you insane! Don’t keep falling for the same guys or going back to the guy that has continuously hurt you expecting a different result just because he says the right thing. There is a man out there for you that will give you everything you want and deserve. But you’ll never find it if you are in an “insane state of mind.”