From highlighting and contouring our faces to bundles and wigs, ladies we have to admit we have enough accessories to make us go from a good 5 to a 10 in two to three hours or less.

Many women I know wouldn’t be caught leaving the house without makeup, much less their weaves and wigs.

In addition to the many accessories we have to beautify us every day, we have these beautiful, body contouring undergarments that we can wear under our clothes that will take us from a 3-liter bottle to a coca-cola bottle figure after a few minutes of squeezing and tugging to get it on.  From Spanx to Waist Trainers ladies we must admit there is a certain amount of deception going on once we leave the house.

But what do men have other than a good barber to help them look good? Not much. But there are some men out there that are balding that want hair and who may have gained a few pounds that they want to hide. What are they supposed to do other than just live with it?

Well, unfortunately, fellas, the answer is apparently nothing but to just deal with those insecurities and man the f**k up! There has been an influx of men that are getting sew-ins for their hairlines and surgeries (i.e. Safaree) for receding hairlines and they get made fun of and sometimes emasculated for wanting to improve something about themselves that they don’t like. Personally, I think it’s unfair to do this when women do it all day every day.

I recently had a chat with a young lady who went on a date with a guy whom she later found out wore what he called a “compression suit” which was basically a “male girdle.” This completely turned her off and she wanted nothing to do with the poor guy. One guy in reference to the topic of the “compression suit” argument actually did not think it was a double standard at all. He actually commented on our Instagram page saying, “We (men) don’t wear that stuff. She need to dip out.” 

However, another man who has worn one before had a different perspective on our Facebook page, “This is a double standard. We wanna look good for y’all just like y’all wanna look good for us……Celebrities do it all the time.”

Though it is, without a doubt, completely is a double standard for women to do things to improve our imperfections and men aren’t allowed without being ridiculed, I would definitely be a little turned off if I got with a guy and discovered we had similar undergarments. It’s hypocritical, yes. And I’m not telling ladies not to date a guy who got his hairline done, wears a sew-in fade, or wears a compression suit. If he has a big heart, is respectful and treats you like a queen, just tell him he doesn’t have to do that cause you like him for who he is and he doesn’t have to do all that extra s**t. I know it’s easier said than done but don’t limit your dating opportunities just cause he wants to improve something about himself that he feels uncomfortable with. Next time, you want to judge a dude for weaves and compression suits, just take look in the mirror, without your makeup, weave and waist trainer on. Let these men live sis before they start judging us for all our “enhancers!”